Handle Criticism And Verbal Attacks With Jedi Communication Skills

The initial anger, shock or fear that arises when verbally attacked seem to be automatic and handwired for the average person. Once fear and resentment take hold, they quickly succumb to hatred. Thus, the Dark Side leads yoiu into the eternal trap of fault finding. Soon your foolish defensiveness leads you to engage in a circular battle of wills to prove your innocence and the obvious evil intentions of your accuser. This dance of hatred is no place for a Jedi!

The rule is as follows: When attacked, seek information. Seeking information in the face of a verbal attack allows the attacker to release the pent up energy behind the attack and diffuse the anger. It allows the one being attacked to understand what is going on before responding.

Of course, it takes patience with your natural instincts to respond without a counter attack. Sometimes a counter-attack is useful, but not very often. Exercising patience, managing your mind and seeking to understand will diffuse any attack worth diffusing, and without any need for drawn sabers.