Entertaining versus hospitality: What’s
the difference?
Entertaining involves setting the perfect tablescape after an
exhaustive search on Pinterest. It chooses a menu that will impress, then frets
its way through each stage of preparation. It requires every throw pillow be in
place, every cobweb eradicated, every child neat and orderly. It plans extra
time to don the perfect outfit before the first guest touches the doorbell on
the seasonally decorated doorstep. And should any element of the plan fall
short, entertaining perceives the entire evening to have been tainted.
Entertaining focuses attention on self.
Hospitality, on the other hand, involves setting a table that
makes everyone feel comfortable. It chooses a menu that allows face-to-face
time with guests instead of being chained to the kitchen. It picks up the
house, but doesn’t feel the need to conceal evidence of everyday life. It
sometimes sits down to dinner with flour in its hair. It allows the gathering
to be shaped by the quality of the conversation rather than the cuisine.
Hospitality shows interest in the thoughts, feelings, pursuits and preferences
of the guests. It asks questions and listens intently to answers. Hospitality
focuses attention on others.
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